Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: 7 Self-Rules to Stay Sane (A Survivor's Story)

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After ending the relationship with my child’ "Book overview Stuck. After ending the relationship with my child’ s father, I found myself attempting the impossible—co-parenting with a narcissistic ex.

I was a loving, caring, concerned mother, but I was: criticized, attacked, blamed, discredited, smeared, and devastated by my ex. While in my care, our child was thriving.

I worked overtime to protect her from the narc’ s subtle abuse and neglect.

I was her buffer. Cold.

Cruel.

Calculating.

Clever.

Charming.

Conniving. When he failed at controlling me, he sought to use legal means and the court system to take sole possession of our child. For eight years, he tried every narcissistic tactic to destroy me beyond what every professional involved had ever seen. In a cruel twist, he projected all his awful behavior onto me and he was awarded full custody. After I lost custody, my goal changed to survival.

I would not give up on my child! Through many hours of reflection, mediation, and therapy, I laid out my priorities. I would do my best to stay healthy and sane, validate my reality, and use protection agencies to the fullest extent. Supported.

Stable.

Strong.

Sane.

Serene.

Smart.